http://www.thebowencenter.org/concepttri.html
There is an interesting theory you might want to look at: The Bowen family system theory, and in particular, the Triangle theory. In a thesis I am reading at the mo (Technology use and intimacy development in commited relationships by Branden Henline - link somewhere down the page) he talks about this theory. The basic idea is that when things get stressful in a realtionship, we look outside ourselves or either something or someone to blame, or as another contact point. Some examples of this could be: a husband and wife have an arguement; wife calls her sister to vent about it. This makes a triangle. Or, another example, a husband and wife are having problems, and to avoid each other, one will stay up later than the other as to avoid the other person and actually working through the issues. One thing that Branden talks about is th idea of people using technology as the third point in the triangle; of using tv and chat rooms as a way to get away from their partners while in conflict.
I have read about 26 pages so far (of 151) but it is really interesting, I suggest maybe you guys just give it a little look over. It's really easy to read. It has made me think that we should look at relationships and the positive and negative effects technology has on them. So the idea that it can be good in introducing people, fostering the first connections, helping people stay in touch. It can also be negative, as it is hard to convey personality and feeling through technology, it can suck time away from the realtionship (eg tv and computer games) instead of spending quality time together, it can help people to convery themselves as something they are not. I don't know, I am quite interested in relationships, and how technology can create, maintain or disintegrate the intimacy between people. What do you think?
Ha, ok, I just read back over Emily's feedback, and I think maybe it would be interesting to look at new relartionships, or how people try to connect with technology; wherther this be getting a crushs cellphone number off a freind and texting them, using a dating website etc. I don't know lol, I feel I'm going off track now, so I am going to stop posting my own through, and I'll post some research about Sociability (as suggested by Aukja) soon
And sorry I've been away, I've been sick... :(
I also put up the feedback, so we should have a look at that on friday I guess?
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There is another aspect to relationship theory and intimacy that is interesting. I have been meaning to find out who proposed it, so I can read up on it (it might be part of Bowen's theory), but in couples that are having difficulties, one of the members will unconsciously create arguments, in order to have so sense of connection.
That is in the absence of intimacy, we will seek out confrontation, just to reaffirm our own existence.
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